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Manifesto: a return to sex as haute couture

We want to get rid of the idea that femininity is defined predominantly by beauty. Normal should become normal again; the extreme is not the norm. Sexual freedom does not equal vulgarity and a complete lack of boundaries.

1. Ordinary beauty is beautiful enough!

Legs without cellulite, without visible veins, perky breasts, a round but firm bottom, sensuous lips and a Playboy-pussy: women who fit this description do not represent reality, so we should not all want to look like them. It's an ideal of beauty that the average woman can simply not match and it's an illusion that makes us unhappy. Unfortunately, a lot of girls, as well as mature women, feel pressurised to adapt their bodies to conform to these fake, photoshopped images. Research shows that only two percent of women worldwide dare call themselves beautiful. A depressingly low number which shows that this is an existential problem for women.

Extreme measures, such as plastic surgery, are a blessing for people with serious abnormalities, but as far as we're concerned it is not a means to undo every single minor imperfection. Who wrote the law that states that different is wrong? Why does the ageing body need "necessary maintenance" in the form of toxins, silicones and painful face lifts? Who decided that ageing is ugly?

We call upon advertisers and magazine editors to provide clarity in the murky unknown: accompany every manipulated too-good-to-be-true image with a fitting caption: "Pore-less thanks to Photoshop" or "This model was digitally narrowed and her neck was elongated". This way, everyone will be able to tell fact from fiction in future.
And women: let's stop judging and categorising one another so sharply and maliciously. The old man versus woman divide is outdated; we make our own contribution to the creation and maintaining of mythical beauty ideals.

2. Trash the compliant sex kitten!

Our dream woman is not a humourless symbol of new prudishness. But she is even less of a 'ho' or a bitch to be dominated by loser wannabe pimps. We've had more than enough of the image of the compliant sex kitten allowing herself to be smacked on the ass. Why can trigger-happy gangsters surrounded by horny underlings decked out with massive fake breasts count on a never-ending amount of air-time? When did submissiveness become an admirable trait? Whose respect and approval do these young women seek? However, it's not just the reviled rapper macho-culture that annoys us, the woman as a "Playboy bunny" is found everywhere. Paris Hilton fills her reality show with lap dances; Jessica Simpson meekly drapes herself across car bonnets. "In TV shows and magazines there is a constant debate about which of the female stars is "the hottest". We don't believe in the type of 'girl power' as praised in song by the Pussycat Dolls" . A woman can be sexy in many different ways. Real sex is exiting, strange, complicated and diverse. The image it currently has is one-dimensional and too easy. At the moment, the mottoes sex sells & money talks appear to be beating pride and uniqueness.

3. Sexuality is haute couture, not a cheap sale

The sale, strongly influenced by the internet, is over. In the past decade, every sexual excess was within easy reach. A simple Google search reveals films of women being defecated on, people giving horses blow jobs, and ladies willingly allowing themselves to be simultaneously fucked in every imaginable orifice. Anyone watching TV expecting to see sex linked to the emotions of love or infatuation is set for disappointment. Anyone who voices this out loud is immediately labelled an esoteric idealist or lambasted as a scary feminist. For: "is it not amazingly progressive that we can see all this?" We think these mulish progressives are outdated. Sexual liberty does not equate complete boundlessness and vulgarity. Forty years ago, at the beginning of the sexual revolution, there were still a great many battles to be won, but what's the significance of sexual liberty if it means 'everything must go' rather than 'anything goes'? At the same time, we don't want sexuality to forge an alliance with values such as shame and honour or religion. The debate shouldn't be a game of ping pong between prudish and liberated, conservative and liberal. Women themselves must make a stand against the one-dimensional way in which femininity and sexuality are currently defined.

Who teaches adolescents to place the images and words they consume via various media in perspective? Teenagers are experienced web-surfers, but are they proof against the overkill of hardcore sex, shady characters, obscure preferences and commercial powers that inhabit the World Wide Web?

We call upon the government to introduce the subject of media-education in primary and secondary schools. Make clear how manipulative the media can be and conduct an open and lively debate about sexuality.

Everything can be enlarged, toned or lifted, a strong intellect should be a special accessory. For those who appreciate that, the beauty of a woman is eternal. Should the 0909-horny-fuck-me-up-my-tight-little-ass-trend turn out to be irreversible, then we hope at the very least to see a loud and critical counter-movement. This manifesto is a first step. We call upon everyone, male or female, who agrees with the above text to sign our manifesto on this website. Furthermore, we request that everyone put forward their own ideas and activities to give a new angle to sexuality and the beauty ideal.

Larissa Pans (historian, free-lance journalist), Marije Lieuwens (free-lance journalist) and Myrthe Hilkens (journalist for De Pers), Sunny Bergman (documentary maker) and Stine Jensen (philosopher and journalist).

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10404. 15-06-2009 15:04:41
Elsbeth J.M. Kooistra, 24, student
Echt een ontzettend goeie documantaire! Ik was onder de indruk! Dit zou iedere vrouw moeten zien.
 
10403. 10-06-2009 12:32:04
Liza Alders, 17, Studente
Ik steun jullie volledig. Het onrealistische schoonheidsideaal vind je overal. Ookal ben ik uiterst tevreden overal mijn eigen uiterlijjk kan ik heel goed begrijpen dat veel mensen zich hier wel wat van aantrekken.
 
10402. 09-06-2009 10:24:12
Judith Groot, 18, Student
Ontzettend goede documentaire, ga zo door!
 
10401. 08-06-2009 17:07:01
Renate Schipper, 31, studente
Het huidige schoonheidsideaal berooft mensen van hun fundamentele recht op vrijheid, authenticiteit en geluk. Het verwoest dus levens. Doe er iets aan.
 
10400. 07-06-2009 00:21:06
hannah rouffa, 23, Fotograaf
Ik ben persoonlijk ook met dit onderweg bezig en ben blij te merken dat ik niet alleen ben!
 
10399. 05-06-2009 11:06:53
Christa Ludwig, 37
 
10398. 02-06-2009 12:55:55
Pim van Galen , 40, buurtwerker
Ga zo door ik steun dit!
 
10397. 27-05-2009 21:31:29
R Wauben, 24, pedagoog
 
10396. 25-05-2009 18:16:42
Miranda van Miert, 21, Studente
geweldige documentaire echt een "eye-opener" al ben ik wel bang dat het schoonheidsideaal niet zomaar te veranderen is. dit is in ieder geval een goed begin
 
10395. 19-05-2009 13:22:54
agnes hoekstra, 46
 
10394. 19-05-2009 13:11:23
kim van zeben, 32, actrice
 
10393. 17-05-2009 20:38:30
s v Geldermalsen, 24, studente
 
10392. 17-05-2009 20:16:35
Mariël Wolters, 19, student
Ik ben het hier helemaal mee eens!
 
10391. 17-05-2009 13:28:41
Hannah Muysken, 17, scholier
 
10390. 16-05-2009 08:56:32
anastacia de roos, 28, jurist
Word eens wakker! Mensen zijn voelende wezens die kunnen denken. Deze site laat zien dat we dat nog kunnen. Het wordt tijd. De intensieve menshouderij krijgt steeds gevaarlijker kanten. We zijn al onderdeel van een economisch model waarin we genummerde pionnen zijn, die multimediaal overvoerd worden door visuele en auditieve prikkels die onze perceptie zo sturen dat we permanent blijven consumeren door onvrede te bewerkstelligen. Wees je dat goed bewust. Natuurlijke schoonheid is gratis, en volop verkrijgbaar, maar wordt door de commercie verwrongen. Omdat het zo dicht bij sexualiteit ligt, wordt die ook verwrongen . Dat maakt ongelukkig, en zorgt voor verwrongen relaties dus veel singles, maar dat wordt nooit meegewogen Singles blijken immers economisch interessanter dan gezinnen. Ze houden heel wat industrieën aan de gang, zoals de autowereld, de huizenbouw. De huidige crisis laat zien dat dat toch ook eindig is. Dus laat je niet meeslepen. Natuurlijke schoonheid is gratis, rustgevend en gezond.
 
10389. 15-05-2009 06:34:02
Maartje Goosen, 31, docent
Ga zo door!
 
10388. 13-05-2009 17:10:02
anneke Boerwinkel, 59, levenskunstenares
ga ermee door en succes !
 
10387. 13-05-2009 15:47:19
Anna Houkema, 49, Sociaal therapeut
Wat fijn dat jullie de media bewust willen maken van hetgeen zij aanrichten en het kabinet willen aanspreken op hun verantwoordelijkheid. Chapeau!
 
10386. 07-05-2009 13:35:59
Elsa Schepers, 29, leerkracht
Mooi initiatief
 
10385. 01-05-2009 14:29:02
Julie Kennes, 19, student sociaal-agogisch werk
De documentaire en de acties die jullie voeren hebben me aangespoord mijn eindpresentatie te doen over de invloed van media op het zelfbeeld van vrouwen. Ik vind dat jullie puik werk leveren!
 
10384. 26-04-2009 09:50:17
Marjoleine Vedder, 34, hulpverlener
 
10383. 23-04-2009 13:02:15
Suzanne van Dijk, 21, student
 
10382. 20-04-2009 01:45:59
Marion Fontijn, 50
Geweldige actie!!!!!! Zelf zie ik de onzekerheid zowel bij mijn dochter als bij mijzelf omdat wij beide bang zijn dat we er niet goed genoeg uit zien. Vreselijk maar zie maar eens van dat gevoel af te komen!!!!! A.u.b. ga door hiermee, hopelijk krijgen mijn kleinkinderen dan een beter zelfbeeld!!!!
 
10381. 18-04-2009 16:52:48
astrid de leener, 17, student
 
10380. 16-04-2009 11:05:06
Michiel Smit, 19, Student
 
10379. 16-04-2009 02:55:07
Summer Wood, 24, kunstenares
 
10378. 11-04-2009 06:27:31
Pauline Hofstra, 46, coach trainer
Prima initiatief! Mensen zijn goed genoeg zoals ze zijn en van seks kun je alleen genieten als je dat ook zo vindt van jezelf en je partner!
 
10377. 10-04-2009 13:03:35
nicole schouten, 46, docent
goede actie!
 
10376. 10-04-2009 09:56:03
Anneke Aalders, 25
 
10375. 09-04-2009 17:50:19
trudi westenberg, 56
Helemaal mee eens!
 
10374. 08-04-2009 14:45:57
Imke Jacobs, 13, student
 
10373. 08-04-2009 14:34:34
Kiki Jacobs, 18, student
 
10372. 07-04-2009 19:42:24
Wendy Duyker, 24, Student
 
10371. 05-04-2009 21:09:01
Keke Keukelaar, 38, Fotograaf
 
10370. 02-04-2009 23:23:09
Alex Plat, 21, student
 
10369. 02-04-2009 11:03:00
Margreet Knol-smalheer, 26, Leerkracht basisonderwijs
 
10368. 27-03-2009 12:43:40
Alice Fahner, 43, Accountmanager
 
10367. 25-03-2009 22:02:54
Marleen Moors, 29, Student
 
10366. 23-03-2009 19:47:57
Marcos Casas, 32, teacher
 
10365. 23-03-2009 11:31:04
Ilda Luaces Torre, Teacher
¡¡Vivan las arrugas, los michelines, la barriga!!
 
10364. 21-03-2009 20:49:58
Mascha van Rhee, 16, student
 
10363. 18-03-2009 20:05:18
Nikei De Pooter, 27, Leerkracht
Tegen de commodificatie van het menselijk lichaam! Mensen zijn niet te koop, vrouwen zijn geen objecten! Doe zo verder!
 
10362. 17-03-2009 09:53:43
Babette Rijsenbrij, 38, projectleider
 
10361. 12-03-2009 13:45:09
Susan Broers, 23, studente
 
10360. 11-03-2009 19:45:38
Carlijn ter Weer, 27
 
10359. 10-03-2009 18:51:56
Niké Wentholt, 17, Scholier
 
10358. 10-03-2009 12:40:29
Jan Willems, 27, leraar
 
10357. 10-03-2009 12:36:57
An Kenis, 27, student
 
10356. 09-03-2009 09:48:31
Arantzazu Azkona, 31, Graphic, web designer
Great documentary. We have to change that. Greetings from The Basque Country
 
10355. 09-03-2009 09:39:06
JON PRIETO, 38, Artist, web designer
all my solidarity with women fight all over the world! a good documentary. Greetings from The Basque Country (Euskadi).

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