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Manifesto: a return to sex as haute couture

We want to get rid of the idea that femininity is defined predominantly by beauty. Normal should become normal again; the extreme is not the norm. Sexual freedom does not equal vulgarity and a complete lack of boundaries.

1. Ordinary beauty is beautiful enough!

Legs without cellulite, without visible veins, perky breasts, a round but firm bottom, sensuous lips and a Playboy-pussy: women who fit this description do not represent reality, so we should not all want to look like them. It's an ideal of beauty that the average woman can simply not match and it's an illusion that makes us unhappy. Unfortunately, a lot of girls, as well as mature women, feel pressurised to adapt their bodies to conform to these fake, photoshopped images. Research shows that only two percent of women worldwide dare call themselves beautiful. A depressingly low number which shows that this is an existential problem for women.

Extreme measures, such as plastic surgery, are a blessing for people with serious abnormalities, but as far as we're concerned it is not a means to undo every single minor imperfection. Who wrote the law that states that different is wrong? Why does the ageing body need "necessary maintenance" in the form of toxins, silicones and painful face lifts? Who decided that ageing is ugly?

We call upon advertisers and magazine editors to provide clarity in the murky unknown: accompany every manipulated too-good-to-be-true image with a fitting caption: "Pore-less thanks to Photoshop" or "This model was digitally narrowed and her neck was elongated". This way, everyone will be able to tell fact from fiction in future.
And women: let's stop judging and categorising one another so sharply and maliciously. The old man versus woman divide is outdated; we make our own contribution to the creation and maintaining of mythical beauty ideals.

2. Trash the compliant sex kitten!

Our dream woman is not a humourless symbol of new prudishness. But she is even less of a 'ho' or a bitch to be dominated by loser wannabe pimps. We've had more than enough of the image of the compliant sex kitten allowing herself to be smacked on the ass. Why can trigger-happy gangsters surrounded by horny underlings decked out with massive fake breasts count on a never-ending amount of air-time? When did submissiveness become an admirable trait? Whose respect and approval do these young women seek? However, it's not just the reviled rapper macho-culture that annoys us, the woman as a "Playboy bunny" is found everywhere. Paris Hilton fills her reality show with lap dances; Jessica Simpson meekly drapes herself across car bonnets. "In TV shows and magazines there is a constant debate about which of the female stars is "the hottest". We don't believe in the type of 'girl power' as praised in song by the Pussycat Dolls" . A woman can be sexy in many different ways. Real sex is exiting, strange, complicated and diverse. The image it currently has is one-dimensional and too easy. At the moment, the mottoes sex sells & money talks appear to be beating pride and uniqueness.

3. Sexuality is haute couture, not a cheap sale

The sale, strongly influenced by the internet, is over. In the past decade, every sexual excess was within easy reach. A simple Google search reveals films of women being defecated on, people giving horses blow jobs, and ladies willingly allowing themselves to be simultaneously fucked in every imaginable orifice. Anyone watching TV expecting to see sex linked to the emotions of love or infatuation is set for disappointment. Anyone who voices this out loud is immediately labelled an esoteric idealist or lambasted as a scary feminist. For: "is it not amazingly progressive that we can see all this?" We think these mulish progressives are outdated. Sexual liberty does not equate complete boundlessness and vulgarity. Forty years ago, at the beginning of the sexual revolution, there were still a great many battles to be won, but what's the significance of sexual liberty if it means 'everything must go' rather than 'anything goes'? At the same time, we don't want sexuality to forge an alliance with values such as shame and honour or religion. The debate shouldn't be a game of ping pong between prudish and liberated, conservative and liberal. Women themselves must make a stand against the one-dimensional way in which femininity and sexuality are currently defined.

Who teaches adolescents to place the images and words they consume via various media in perspective? Teenagers are experienced web-surfers, but are they proof against the overkill of hardcore sex, shady characters, obscure preferences and commercial powers that inhabit the World Wide Web?

We call upon the government to introduce the subject of media-education in primary and secondary schools. Make clear how manipulative the media can be and conduct an open and lively debate about sexuality.

Everything can be enlarged, toned or lifted, a strong intellect should be a special accessory. For those who appreciate that, the beauty of a woman is eternal. Should the 0909-horny-fuck-me-up-my-tight-little-ass-trend turn out to be irreversible, then we hope at the very least to see a loud and critical counter-movement. This manifesto is a first step. We call upon everyone, male or female, who agrees with the above text to sign our manifesto on this website. Furthermore, we request that everyone put forward their own ideas and activities to give a new angle to sexuality and the beauty ideal.

Larissa Pans (historian, free-lance journalist), Marije Lieuwens (free-lance journalist) and Myrthe Hilkens (journalist for De Pers), Sunny Bergman (documentary maker) and Stine Jensen (philosopher and journalist).

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9204. 18-09-2007 21:18:13
ellen visser, 31, psycholoog
Ik ben niet voor betutteling vanuit de politiek, maar in deze hoop ik toch van harte dat de politiek zal ingrijpen. Ik hou mijn hart vast voor de opgroeiende kinderen als ik zie hoe mijn leeftijdgenoten bezig zijn met hun uiterlijk. Mag 'ouder worden en ouder eruit zien' nog wel of wordt dat binnenkort een 'statement' of dappere daad?
 
9203. 18-09-2007 21:16:56
Fleur Junier, 33, conservator
 
9202. 18-09-2007 20:40:06
cash cash
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9201. 18-09-2007 20:38:14
cash cash
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9200. 18-09-2007 20:19:22
Arjan van IJzendoorn, 33, IT-er
 
9199. 18-09-2007 20:18:08
maria hendriks, 39, hondentrimmer
Goed initiatief! Helemaal voor!
 
9198. 18-09-2007 19:07:04
wybe koldijk, 53, pedagoochelaar/acteur
 
9197. 18-09-2007 19:05:48
margje kuipers, 52, groepsleidster
 
9196. 18-09-2007 18:45:23
Zohra Beldman, 13, Scholiere
 
9195. 18-09-2007 18:23:11
Marieke Kattier, 28
 
9194. 18-09-2007 17:47:08
Evert van As, 26, Student Humanistiek
 
9193. 18-09-2007 17:45:51
Anna Krijger, 23, student
Ik hoop dat deze beweging echt invloed zal hebben op de manier waarop wij in onze maatschappij naar vrouwen kijken. Vooral wil ik benadrukken dat het belangrijk is dat wij vrouwen elkaar steunen in plaats van elkaar beconcurreren. Sisterhood!
 
9192. 18-09-2007 17:28:19
Nelleke Kattier, 25, Management Trainee
 
9191. 18-09-2007 17:27:39
Anne Raaymakers, 46, copy writer
 
9190. 18-09-2007 16:50:25
Brenda de Boom, 32, jurist bij het OM
 
9189. 18-09-2007 16:36:13
Anna Grebel, 25, Dramaturg
 
9188. 18-09-2007 16:30:05
Marijke Kruijthoff, 25, muzikante
 
9187. 18-09-2007 16:29:18
Kundy Klijn, 40, docente
 
9186. 18-09-2007 16:29:18
Kundy Klijn, 40, docente
 
9185. 18-09-2007 15:18:12
Karen van Wichen, 26, Docente filosofie
 
9184. 18-09-2007 14:51:32
Lydia Bons, 22, student
Amen! ps: de aliantie met religie is misschien niet voor iedereen gewenst, maar vanuit mijn religieuze perspectief ("christelijk") is mijn zelfbeeld juist enorm positief bepaald!
 
9183. 18-09-2007 14:13:22
Kim de Winter, 24, student
Wat een goed initiatief is dit, ik sta hier volledig achter!
 
9182. 18-09-2007 14:01:24
Robert Valk, 41
Sexualiteit gaat niet over sex. Het gaat over gevoelsbeleving, kracht, levendigheid, creativiteit. Het is geen uiterlijk plaatje, het is een innerlijk kracht dat leven geeft. Sex is slechts één van de vele mogelijkheden om aan die sexuele kracht uiting te geven. Sexualiteit gaat over jezelf laten zien vanuit je eigen kracht. Wanneer de sexualiteit sterk is ben je een levendig mens met veel energie. Mensen denken dat sexualiteit gaat over sex, verleiding, etc. Als het alleen maar daar over gaat dan is de gedachte over en de beleving van sexualiteit zeer beperkt. Het gaat in eerste instantie over persoonlijkheid en levendigheid. Sex in deze tijd is emotioneel gefrustreerde sex en het heeft niets te maken met schoonheid, intimiteit, diepgang en een samen zijn. Het gaat over 'spanningen wegneuken' waar de mens dagelijks mee te maken heeft door alle stress en druk die er op hen staat en gezet wordt. Sex is een soort van laatste redmiddel geworden om nog iets te kunnen 'voelen' in deze tijd.
 
9181. 18-09-2007 13:27:37
Susanne Geuze, 16, Verkoopster Delikaas Albert Heijn / scholiere
Revolution.
 
9180. 18-09-2007 11:33:32
F.M.A. van Ballegooij, 27, Docent
Keep up the good work!
 
9179. 18-09-2007 10:33:08
M. Veugen, 46, Nagelstyliste
Prima aktie,ga zo door!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
9178. 18-09-2007 10:30:36
R. Veugen, 18, student
Super inititatief!!!!!!
 
9177. 18-09-2007 10:16:15
Cristal Zipporah, 26, Prostituee
 
9176. 18-09-2007 09:15:59
l.m.c. wagemans, 37, eindredacteur
 
9175. 18-09-2007 00:39:43
Janneke Kelter, 43, Docent
Prima initiatief!
 
9174. 17-09-2007 23:26:48
Merel Kamsteeg, 21, Student Culturele Antropologie en Ontwikkelingsstudies
Vrouwen zijn mooi in alle vormen en maten, maar daar hebben ze wel zelfvertrouwen voor nodig. En dat wordt ons ontnomen. Geef onze gestolen identiteit terug!
 
9173. 17-09-2007 23:03:24
Mirthe Berentsen, freelance-journalist, student
 
9172. 17-09-2007 22:41:09
Mirella van der Salm, 32, accountmanager
 
9171. 17-09-2007 21:50:35
Marleen Meijer, 35, Beleidsmedewerker
 
9170. 17-09-2007 21:30:08
Marjan Mohle
 
9169. 17-09-2007 19:47:08
Tom Peeters, 58, leraar lichamelijke opvoeding
 
9168. 17-09-2007 19:43:13
Maris van Sluijs, 43, logopedist
 
9167. 17-09-2007 19:39:46
Petra de Groot, 39, Moeder
 
9166. 17-09-2007 19:20:27
linda lenssen, 23, studente beeldende kunst en vormgeving
 
9165. 17-09-2007 18:57:03
Ineke Baan, 34, secretaresse en student
 
9164. 17-09-2007 18:53:05
Joyce van Hoorn, 35, maatschappelijk werker
 
9163. 17-09-2007 16:52:44
M. Prinse, 15, cassiere
 
9162. 17-09-2007 16:28:22
Joke Schellevis, 44, boekhoudster
 
9161. 17-09-2007 14:53:16
Ellen van Kooij, 36, tbm
 
9160. 17-09-2007 12:31:12
R. Alkemade, 29, Docent
 
9159. 17-09-2007 11:57:14
Maartje Dekker, 17, Scholier
Wauw, super om zoiets te zien. Ik merk echt dat ik op de echtheid van de foto's ging letten en dan zie je eigenlijk pas hoeveel er geshopt wordt. Een belangrijke gewaarwording.
 
9158. 17-09-2007 11:55:50
Jan De Winter, 56
Schitterend inititatief. Echte schoonheid zit van binnen, en plastische chirurgie zorgt enkel voor de buitenkant . . . .
 
9157. 17-09-2007 11:40:27
Rita Verbrugge, 20, conservatorium studie
Bedankt voor de documentaire en deze acties, misschien kunnen we Nederland wakker schudden voordat het zo erg wordt als in Amerika. Menselijke schoonheid is het mooist!
 
9156. 17-09-2007 11:36:29
Ineke Brugmans-Prins, 48, huisvrouw
Prima aktie!!!
 
9155. 17-09-2007 11:22:27
Evert Schermerhorn, 59, Projectontwikkelaar
Prima actie

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